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Dating Tips& Dating Advice |
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“The Natural” at Attracting and Meeting Men
Have you ever known a woman who never had any problems attracting and dating men? Sure, maybe she was totally beautiful, or maybe she had a charming personality that really worked for her. Whatever it was, it certainly wasn’t anything she studied, read about, or learned from anyone else that gave her some superhuman abilities to attract, interact with, and understand men. These are the naturals, and yes, we hate them.
But seriously, if you know any women that are naturals, they’re great examples to learn from about attraction and dating men. “Naturals” have never really had to worry or think about starting conversations with men, finding good men, or attracting and flirting with them. Everything has come easy to them. They haven’t gone through the horrors of “trial and error that the rest of us have had to do...
And since what Naturals know about men has come to them without much rejection, failure, or disappointment, they have avoided building up all the fears, worries, and issues that so many other women have because of their experiences with men. The point is, Naturals are good at creating the physical and emotional attraction not because they have some gift that other women don’t have. It’s simply that Naturals don’t let their fears and issues affect their behavior with men. The past doesn’t inhibit their ability to create a fun, challenging, attractive, and interesting environment with a single man.
So let me give you some dating advice on the characteristics of these naturally attractive women:
• They keep their initial interactions or approaches with men short and fun. • They’re unpredictable and challenging in the way they act and flirt. • No matter what a man says or does, they don’t get rattled or taken off balance. • Instinctively, they seem to “get” what creates and amplifies attraction in men without having to be overtly sexual. • When they first meet a man, they never let the conversation get too serious too soon. They also avoid talking about boring subjects like work, family and religion in the beginning. • They’re flirtatious, and they offer challenging twists during conversation using sarcasm and other methods. • They challenge men on their issues in casual and non-dramatic and non-threatening way. • If a man is flirting with them they don’t just accept compliments but put the ball back in play to create more tension, which keeps him intrigued. • They know that having a good time together and being relaxed as things are starting out on a date or relationship is more important than trying to make things happen too soon. • Even if they are dating a man, they keep plans and interests outside the relationship they’re in. They don’t lose touch with their own life, friends, interests, etc. In other words, they are not needy - and may even occasionally BREAK a date with their boyfriend or prospective boyfriend! • They never think too far ahead, and they understand that creating a better moment in the present is much better than trying to talk about or create something in the future of the relationship.
To sum it up, “Naturals” intuitively know that fear, insecurity, and neediness are the enemies of attraction. They know their behavior and attitude with every man has little or no trace of these fears and insecurities - which is one of their more attractive qualities as far as most men are concerned.
If you’ve got a single girlfriend who’s a Natural, the best thing you can do is go out and spend time with her in a place where there are lots of single men. Get dating tips from her! Call her up and tell her you want to go out and get a drink or dinner, or go to a club or bar. Then go to a cool, fun place where there are the kinds of guys you might like to meet. Then just sit back and watch the magic as she works her charms and lands man after man. Here’s where the learning starts.
Watch how she presents herself with a casual and relaxed attitude to all the single men, as if to say, "Ya, I'm here, and you can take it or leave it". Take note of her posture, where she sits in the room, how she interacts with everyone from the bartender to the nice (but uninteresting) guy next to her. Watch how she challenges men who approach her. These are all clues to how and why she’s a Natural at meeting men and creating attraction once she finds a man she’s interested in.
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