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Wear What Can Be Worked

 

 

"Wear What Can Be Worked"

 

(From the book, "Sensuality Secrets: How To Seduce Your Lover Without Being Noticed")

 

I know this may sound exaggerated, but putting together the details of body positioning combined with the right outfit creates that "wham!" effect. It takes just one detail to set yourself back. Women notice these little details all the time with men. We comment on the color of the socks he chose to wear, the tie he picked, even if he missed a spot when shaving --  so why should we settle for less from ourselves.

 

Before you flaunt your assets, you really ought to be clear on what they are -- your current assets, not simply what you got compliments on back in high school.

 

Know your body type. Learn to wear clothes that hide faults (because we all have them) and call attention to your attributes. Accentuating assets diverts attention from your lesser features.

 

Get dressed and look in the mirror or at a recent picture. How do you look in what you wear?

 

Ask a friend. Ask a stranger. Don't assume that what was once an asset or flaw still remains so.

 

What you wear in ballroom dancing can give you a winning edge. It took me some misses to finally know what style works for me. Then I stuck with it. My legs are strong and thick, yet my upper body is small and lean. So I always exposed my back, arms and stomach and covered up my legs with long, draping skirts during competitions. That's the winning combination that made me feel good and sexy -- so I'd dance better.

 

Sensuality can flourish amidst subtlety and nuance.  Highlighting a feature, such as eyes or legs, by adding accessories one at a time, can help you achieve the tone you desire, for example, glamorous, funky or elegant.

 

Finding the right look is key in ballroom dancing. You must flaunt what you have and hide your imperfections.   You must be fashionable. And when you find clothes that reveal less and tantalize more, you create that all-important aura of mystery, and most men can't resist a good mystery! There are a few basic tenets I keep in mind when dressing or shopping for new clothes:

 

1)  Less is more. Start with a basic cut (in pants or skirts) that suits your body type. Avoid outrageously colored or patterned fabrics. Keep your clothes classic. Some stores provide you with such a variety of jean styles that you can try them all until you find one that suits you.

 

2)  Dress your age. Don't show the mid section unless you have very little body fat around the stomach. I was able to show my abs when I was competing, but not anymore!

 

3)  Don't wear tops or bottoms that are too tight. They might grab attention at first. But ultimately, rather than whet his appetite, they leave you overexposed. Clothes should help to form your body, not make it look like you squeezed into them.

 

4)  Long skirts are safer than short ones, unless you have great legs. I know I don't, so the shortest shirt I wear is just above the knee. Remember that longer, fuller skirts with movement help skim over hip issues.

 

5)  I love long items -- long pants, long flowing skirts and long sleeves. I have a few draping tops and pullovers whose sleeves go past my wrist... very sexy.

 

6)  Give every outfit you wear a twist -- make it personal, make it your own. It could be a funky belt or an eccentric bauble. Have fun with accessorizing but don't get carried away. You will also be able to use these accessories as part of your occasional adjustments during moments self-touch.

 

The Gay Connection

 

I have a lot of gay friends who are very conscious about the way they (and we) look and who are not afraid to tell it like it is. Going shopping with them is fantastic -- they are straightforward and very direct!

Every girl needs a fashion-forward gay friend!

 

Be all the woman you can and were MEANT to be!

 

Patty Contenta

 

 

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