Become a Natural
Curse of the Attractive Woman
Now that we’ve touched on some of the details on
developing natural and lasting attraction with men,
there’s an essential idea in attracting a man that
TONS of women don’t seem to get—and it keeps these
women from further developing their relationship to
the commitment stage. These women seem to get stuck
repeating the same situation over and over again,
and can’t bring things to a deeper emotional level
with a man, and although they’re attractive, great
to be with, the women can’t understand why they
can’t seem to attract men.
Well, here’s the reason why…
There’s something that certain sensual and
physically attractive women do that fosters a
negative situation with a man. This occurs when a
woman involves herself with a man who has little or
no real intention of connecting with her in an
emotional or long-term level. I touched on this a
little in the “Casual Girl or Relationship
Material?” section in Chapter 1 of my
ebook, but it’s important enough to talk about
it again in this context.
If you’ve been paying attention in life, you know
that things often come easy to physically attractive
women. And it’s especially true when it comes to
meeting men. No big discovery there, right? But
here's the thing I find fascinating…
The women I know who are physically attractive
usually have a HARDER time finding a good guy to
settle down with them in comparison to the women I
know who don't have men ogling them all the time.
In other words, the women I know who aren't
approached by men as often are usually better at
identifying good men from bad men. And they're
better at creating the right environment and
situation for a future relationship.
What's going on here? It seems kind of backwards.
I've been thinking more about this lately and I've
started to recognize a pattern. For women who are
physically attractive, in a strange way, being
attractive becomes the very thing that holds them
back from learning how to create the kind of natural
and lasting attraction that goes beyond just how
good they look.
Let me explain…
Some women are able to trigger a man’s "caveman
response", so they think that this is what works.
And anything else that might go wrong between her
and the man afterwards is some totally unrelated
But here’s the thing… Sure, triggering a man's
physical interest is a relatively easy way to go
about it. Men, being the predictable animals they
can be, usually respond to what the woman is doing.
But here's the tricky part about some men. When a
man responds to physical attraction, it can lead
women into thinking that they're going about getting
close to him in the right way.
However, the ultimate outcome isn't anything near
what the woman was aiming for in her love.
And instead of falling in love with her the way she
would have wanted him to, the "caveman" just falls
“in lust” and doesn't develop any real connection or
desire beyond the physical, which means that he has
no desire for a long-term relationship with her.
In other words, he has a lot of the Physical
Attraction for her, but little or none of the
Emotional or Intellectual Attraction. And since the
beautiful woman has never really had to work too
hard to get a man to ask her on a date, she has
never really had to develop those other, non-
appearance sort of attractors.
So in this situation, tension and trouble starts to
build and it becomes painfully obvious that he's not
ready for anything more serious because he doesn't
share the same deep feelings for her as she does for
If you want to make the right start, enticing a man
through physical attraction, while it works, is the
wrong way to try and set a foundation for the future
with a man.
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