Healing the Marriage
When to Call
Face Your Fears
Questions to Ask Before Youíre Intimate
The question of timing when considering dating and
sexual intimacy is a common question that women ask
when looking for dating tips and dating advice. Most
single women want to know exactly how to approach
sex with a man they recently started dating so that
they are not seen as a "conquest" or "easy". Since
most men will never turn down a sexual advance made
by a woman, it's hard to gauge when the timing is
right or when it is too soon.
One dating tip that I think is invaluable to women
asking this question is that a woman should never
lead a relationship or potential relationship with
sex. What this means is sleeping with a man before
your relationship is established or in so many
cases, before you even really know if you want a
relationship with him.
One common theme in dating advice for women is to
keep yourself open - however, open means open to
future possibilities, not an open door that swings
out for any man who knocks. What ďopennessĒ of
character or even body language should tell a man is
that heís dealing with a woman who has respect for
herself and her body. What this also does is attract
a HIGH-QUALITY partner to you, someone who will not
just be a great romantic partner, but someone who
will also be a good friend in the long run.
Ok, so on with the dating tips. You've met a guy you
are really attracted to and you believe youíre ready
to be intimate for the first time. Maybe. Here are 4
questions you should ask yourself FIRST:
Dating Tips for Sexual Timing Decisions:
1. Do you actually know him?
2. Is he physically healthy? And ladies, donít look
at him and say yes. You cannot tell who has gotten a
disease by how they look on the outside or how many
times a day they bathe. If he is willing to get a
test then you know that he is in this for more than
a quick tumble. If he refuses, thatís a good sign
they are not a responsible partner because if you
have nothing to hide - you hide nothing.
3. How is your self-esteem level? Has something
happened lately to make you feel more in need of
this sort of physical/emotional validation? If you
are doing this for a reason such as feeling
insecure, low or doubtful - stop right there and
donít do it. You should only be sexual for the right
4. Are you sober? If you are not sober, if you are
drunk, tipsy or altered in any way - donít do it.
Things that feel right when we are in an altered
state often do not feel right the next day. It's
much easier to do something later that you have
never done than to undo something you should have
Show the man that you have an open heart, and open
mind, and an open (but not necessarily available)
body. This will attract a much more QUALITY man into
your life. As always, dating tips and dating advice
should be taken and applied to your life in a way
that FITS your life and your situation. These are
dating guidelines for women only, and should be used
at your discretion.
Be good to yourself.