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Do you know how most women end up losing the man in
their life? Do you know the reason most men end up
losing interest in the woman who they used to be
wild about? Do you know how to lose a man, and how
to do it lightning-fast? How to lose a man is an
interesting topic that there was an entire movie
made about.
But why would you want to find dating advice for
women on how to LOSE a man? Well, I'm going to throw
out a crazy idea for you to think about...I'm going
to suggest that you are probably already an EXPERT
at losing a man. In fact, it might just come
naturally for you. For lots of women, this seems to
be the case.
But the real PROBLEM is that most women don't
UNDERSTAND why they're so good at LOSING the man in
their life. In other words, they walk through the
world screwing up one situation after another and
never realize just how good they are at being bad
with understanding men. They don't realize that by
changing just a few key things they could change
their lives and their experiences with men
DRAMATICALLY. One great way to increase your success
in life is to start REALIZING what you're doing.
Most people call this AWARENESS.If YOU want to be
more aware NOW - go here: http://www.ChristianCarterCatchHimandKeepHim.com
The point being, once you actually understand what
you're doing and the results you're helping to
create around you, you can CHANGE. So open your
mind. Listen up. Start to become more aware as I
share some things you're probably doing when it
comes to men, dating, and relationships.
TYPICAL THINGS WOMEN DO WITH MEN
Try this on for size...What happens if a man expects
you to act or behave a certain way that's "negative"
and he doesn't like... and then you show up and act
this way? Right.
Not only does he not like the way you're being with
him... but you're also doing something else that
will have him seeing you in an even worse
light...you'll be acting very PREDICTABLE and
fulfilling all of the worst expectations a man might
have about you, or about women in general.
Here's a great dating tip for women: you, like
lots of other women, are probably acting in a ways
that are often very PREDICTABLE to men. In fact,
PAINFULLY predictable.
The thing is... as humans, we do basically the same
things when we get into common situations as others,
and we don't even realize it. Predictable responses
to common situations happen often enough for most
people that when we get around someone new in our
life... we can often guess what's going to happen
next.
Part of this serves a useful purpose for us socially
and in the way we relate and connect with each
other. But part of it works entirely AGAINST US.
Here's why being predictable can be so bad when it
comes to men and dating...
Look at this formula:
Predictable = Boring
Boring = Emotionally Flat
Emotionally Flat = No ATTRACTION
No Attraction = No Interest or Attention or
Affection From A Man
One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a man is to act or
become very PREDICTABLE. A huge dating mistake women
make that causes them to start acting predictable to
men in negative ways is GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER or
putting your life "on hold" for a man while you're
trying to make sure your relationship is working.
I'm not going to go into everything about this or
how it works this second, but if you've dated a man
seriously before... and you've later broken up with
him, then odds are you've realized something like
this that went on inside yourself. The reality is
that men are NOT attracted to women who aren't
living their lives in a fulfilling way.
At least not HEALTHY AND ATTRACTIVE MEN who would
rather have NO RELATIONSHIP and be alone if they
can't have the right kind of relationship for them.
If you act or feel lonely or hopeless, or if you are
waiting to share love with a man to start
experiencing joy in your life, you are shooting
yourself in the foot and getting in your own way in
so many types of situations you can't even see it
right now.
Here are a few more dating tips for women on how
women act PREDICTABLE, give too much of themselves
away, and make about 129 other huge mistakes with
men they've just met or are dating:
1) Calling Him All The Time
If you like or love someone, it's great to let them
know, right? Yes and No. There's a way to let a man
know you love him or you're thinking about him that
will "fill his sails" and draw him even closer to
you.
And...
There's a way to let a man know you love him or
you're thinking about him that will end up making
him feel like you're "needy" and clingy and he'll
want space away from you.
It's great if you feel so strongly for a man and you
share such a great connection that you can't wait
until the next time you talk. But even if you're not
feeling "needy" about why you call a man all the
time... a man will often PERCEIVE this as a sign of
INSECURITY and NEEDINESS and actually start wanting
to talk to you and be around you less and less.
It usually feels like a good idea when the urge to
call a man and get in touch comes up, and you don't
want to play "games" or censor yourself. And if a
man could just open up to you, then you could talk
all the time and it would feel great and do wonders
for your relationship. But the reality is that it
almost NEVER works this way for HIM.
Calling a man all the time and constantly wanting to
talk, and to have him talk to you is a great way to
lose a man before you even have him. And
interestingly enough, it doesn't leave a man much
space to be coming towards you and GIVING to you the
attention and interest that he could be if he wasn't
responding and reacting to you all the time.
Some women are so busy giving and trying to
communicate and be close to a man that they cover up
all the space, time and opportunity where a man
would otherwise be giving back to them. Of course,
it takes slowing down and not acting on those little
emotional and mental impulses all the time to create
this kind of space...
2) Doing "Nice Things" And Favors For Him
What do lots of women do when they meet a guy that
they "really like" and things are slow to come
together? Well, they get into a series of long life
conversation about schools and families and jobs and
100 other everyday things that everyone has going on
in their lives... only to realize that it isn't
creating ATTRACTION inside the man even though
they're sharing with each other.
He's completely "in his own head" and not paying
much attention to them.
So what do they do?
They think to themselves, "I better come up with
some way to connect with him as a woman to a man.
Why don't I try and HELP HIM with some of the stuff
he's having a hard time with. That way I can help
him out with what's bothering him and he'll like me
and know that I like him."
I call this the "Super-Sized Friend Approach" where
a woman tries to get a man to fall for her by being
a kind of "super friend". If you've ever bought a
man a gift for no other reason than the sole intent
of getting them to like you, then you've done this
one. (Kind of like how some men think that if they
take a woman out to an expensive dinner or buy her
fancy things that this will win her love and
affection)
But what does this REALLY communicate?
What does this really do for a MAN when a woman
tries to help him out with his own "burdens" in
life? Does it make him start feeling ATTRACTION and
LOVE for her?
Or does it do something else?
Doing this communicates a few different subtle
things:
A) That you're his "friend", and not a woman for him
to want and desire.
B) That you don't have the confidence or the ability
to get him to spend time with you for NO REASON
other than the fact that you'll be together... and
that you must not be WORTH spending time with
without some kind of bribe or "incentive" for him.
C) That you have to do things in order to win his
LOVE and APPROVAL for you... and that you'll do
anything including spending your precious time and
energy helping him do even mundane everyday stuff in
his life just so he'll like you. Seeking a man's
approval by doing stuff even he wouldn't want to do
only tells a man that you don't value yourself and
your time...and so neither will he.
3) Acting Like His Girlfriend From The Beginning
So where is the dating advice here? Well, what's
better than a nice, thoughtful woman who is loving
and reassuring and nurturing from the very first
date?
Well, to a man lots of things are better...like a
woman that he doesn't even know if he should want
"logically"... but he can't help it anyway. Or a
woman he can't stop thinking about and can't quite
figure out. Or a woman who is so ATTRACTIVE on a
physical AND mental/emotional level that nothing
else really seems to matter but wanting to be with
her.
But lots of women make the huge mistake of thinking
that the way to "date" a man is really the same
thing as being a good "girlfriend". Of course, this
thought process isn't too conscious. It's just the
way they act around a man. And it ends up ruining
things before they even begin. The man is just
starting to get to know her, and if he feels a
"serious relationship" starting before he's even had
time to figure out how he feels about this woman and
if she'd be right for him... most of the time he'll
pull away without any explanation.
If you come on too strong too soon in terms of
calling him "pet names", or staying home on Friday
and Saturday nights, or naming your kids before you
know each others last names... you'll appear just
like every other predictable woman that has ever
tried to figure out what a man and a relationship is
all about before it even gets time to grow.
And if you're reading this right now and you haven't
yet downloaded your copy of my online eBook "Catch
Him & Keep Him", I have something to tell you...
IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR DATING TIPS FOR WOMEN, then
GET THEM!
My Catch Him and Keep Him eBook is the foundation
for everything that I teach in these dating tip
newsletters, and it's the foundation for "Ready For
Love" and my program on Attraction. I've found over
and over that it's best to get down the real world
basics before you get into all the fascinating
specifics... and my eBook is what will give you all
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You can download it RIGHT NOW and be reading it in
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I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in
Life and Love
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
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