You're hanging out talking with some friends, when
all of a sudden the conversation turns to a common
topic - love and relationships.
And each woman at the table starts talking about the
situation she's in and all the amazing things about
At first you're enjoying the stories and you're
happy for your friends.
But then it hits you -
You are the only person there who ISN'T in an
ongoing positive relationship.
Everyone else at the table has someone in their life
who they're excited and optimistic about.
Everyone else has something "real."
Everyone except you.
You're ALONE... and that guy who you "date", without
the relationship going anywhere, well - he doesn't
So you stop for a second and think,
"Maybe it's me..."
"Maybe it's not all because of the way men are, but
how I am. That explains why I don't have real love
in my life."
As you think about this for a second, you can't help
but feel a little lonely all of a sudden, and a
small twinge of sadness wells up inside.
But as these feelings start to grow, you know inside
that you deserve better, and you wish the feeling
would just go away.
But it doesn't... and the last thing you want to do
is "go there" in front of your friends.
Especially since they just got through telling all
of their great stories.
You don't want them to know how you really feel
right now... and you wish this feeling and problem
would just go away.
You think to yourself:
"Why does love and a relationship have to be so
"If only men weren't so difficult to be with."
But then your "protective" side kicks in, and you
start fighting these feelings and tell yourself:
"I don't need a man."
"I'm happy with my life as it is."
"I'm happy to be single and focus on myself right
now, instead of wasting my time and energy in a
dead-end situation with a man."
"Men are all screwed up and trouble anyway, and I
don't need that in my life right now."
Ahhhh... it starts to work and you calm down and
regain your "cool."
But somewhere deep down inside, you know why you
felt sad -
Seeing all your friends happy in their love lives
reminded you of something...
For all the reasons you have to be happy, and all
the ways you can convince other people (and
yourself) that you're fulfilled, you REALLY DO want
something much, much better.
You want a REAL CONNECTION.
You want to share REAL LOVE and BE LOVED.
And you wonder how long you can avoid the reality
that these things are MISSING from your life by
staying busy and taking care of other areas of life.
You know you can't go on this way forever.
Something has to change.
There HAS to be something better out there for you.
Or else what's it all for?
But then you remember...
It's been months, maybe even years, since you've
actually made the time and space in your life to
meet and connect with the kind of man who could
bring great things back into your love life.
And in fact, the idea of "dating" sounds like a
complete and utter NIGHTMARE.
Sitting through a date listening to some bozo, who
has no idea how to really connect with you, ramble
on about himself, would just make you feel even more
hopeless and alone.
So you've basically shut out of your life the idea
of dating and going out with men for more than
But then how are you supposed to meet and connect
with a great guy?
And how did EVERYONE ELSE around you manage to
become CLOSE and COMMITTED with a good guy, while
you're having an impossible time finding a guy who
isn't totally clueless?
Do they know something you don't?
Are you just UNLUCKY in love... and not meant
to have a great relationship for yourself?
Are they somehow more attractive than you are?
Why does it have to be so difficult?
And why does it have to be such a "game"?
***End of story**
Ok, I know I got a little "heavy" on you there, but
it's for your own good.
This story is basically a myth... a collection of
common situations, fears, beliefs, etc., that women
And in case you didn't notice, a lot of what was
going on here in the story had to do with a woman's
own limiting thoughts, frustrations and negative
beliefs about men, dating and relationships.
If you identified with a few of these thoughts,
fears, etc., then I want you to recognize something.
Some women have VERY FEW of these negative and
While other women have TONS.
I'm talking 10, 20, 30 and 50 times a day here.
And what do you think that does for a woman?
Or for you?
Let's try something new today - an exercise.
Take a second and imagine something for me...
Picture in your mind a woman you know who's either
single or in a "troubled" relationship.
Make sure you have a clear picture of her in your
Now I want you to imagine her having negative
thoughts and fears like the ones we've been talking
In fact, I also want you to give her some of the
fears and negative thoughts that you have.
And now... concentrate on how these thoughts make
her FEEL and ACT.
See how they affect her emotions, her attitude and
even her body language.
I'll give you a second to picture this clearly in
Ok, now imagine a situation comes up for her
uncertain situation with the man in her life.
Picture her emotions, her thoughts and how she
communicates to the man in her life in your head.
I'll give you a second to think about this and
imagine it happening in your mind.
I'll give you another minute.
Ok, come on back.
Now, I want you answer a question for me:
How did all of her negative thoughts affect how she
interacted with her guy?
Did they help guide her to positive and constructive
communication that brought them
Or did it tend to make communication with him MORE
DIFFICULT and create DISTANCE?
I'm sure you came up with all kinds of insights and
realizations, but here's what I want you to see:
Communicating with a man from a place of fear and
insecurity will more often create DISTANCE than it
will bring you and him together.
Unless the guy you're with is ALREADY an expert at
communicating and dealing with these things himself.
If only men were experts when it came to having
open, lasting relationships and communicating in
ways that would bring you closer, right?
Wouldn't that be nice.
Well, the truth is men are RARELY experts in these
And sure... a man COULD come along and be such a
wonderful and amazing guy that he would help make
relationships and communicating easier.
But if that doesn't happen, or the great guy you do
find doesn't happen to have these natural skills and
abilities (and by the way, most men don't)...
Then guess what?
It's up to YOU.
He's not going to make it work FOR YOU.
In fact, the reality is that as you are first
becoming close with a man, he's more likely to
trigger your own fears than to help resolve them.
I'm not telling you about this right now just
because I'm trying to teach you some "mumbo jumbo"
about how thoughts, energy and intention work
(Which they do.)
But for another simple reason -
There's something you can do right now to
DRAMATICALLY improve the level of connection and
intimacy you have in your love life.
It all starts in one place.
Paying attention to HOW YOU THINK.
On a basic level, your own patterns of THINKING and
FEELING lead to the ACTIONS you take and the
BEHAVIOR you display.
And guess what can create a "negative filter" on
your THINKING and FEELINGS?
And if you're finding that your actions and
behaviors aren't "naturally" attracting good men and
creating healthy long-term relationships... then
you've got something to look at right now:
Your own thoughts and emotions, and your own fears.
And, of course, you could worry about HIS ISSUES
too, but let's save working on him for later when
you're up to speed on all this for yourself.
GETTING PAST FEAR, "CONNECTING" ON A DEEP LEVEL, AND
MAKING MEN ADDICTED TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP...
Ok, let's get to some real ANSWERS here.
What do you DO when you have negative, fearful,
limiting thoughts and situations going on in your
mind that are affecting your love life?
Well, I'm not going to tell you that all women who
are single or in "dead-end" relationships are in
that place in their life JUST BECAUSE they think and
feel in "fear-based" and "self-limiting" ways.
But do the math.
What kind of women do you think men "naturally"
What kind of women do you think men "instinctively"
feel good when they're around, even if they don't
What kind of women do you think men understand, on a
subconscious level and make great long-term
Women who are in CONTROL of their own fears and
emotions when it comes to men, dating and
It's NOT because feelings and emotions themselves
Feelings and emotions are probably the most
beautiful part of what makes us human and allows us
to experience the world in a deep and meaningful
But, what I'm talking about here are NEGATIVE
Because negative feelings, more often than not, lead
to NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES.
And women who are in CONTROL of their EMOTIONAL
EXPERIENCES and who have a handle on their own
emotional state, know how to do something that other
women can't and will never be able to fake...
They know how to consistently create more POSITIVE
EMOTIONAL EXPERIENCES with men.
On one level, it really is that simple.
In practice, it's much harder.
So let's get on now to ATTRACTION.
The truth is that men are attracted to one woman and
not another largely because of the way that one
woman makes them FEEL.
And NOT because of what logically sound qualities
each person and the relationship has.
ATTRACTION and CONNECTION have their own "logic."
I'll say it again so you can really hear it this
A man is attracted to a woman and wants to be with
her, and only her, because of the way he FEELS when
he's around her.
And not for any other reason.
Not even if the women is the most loving, caring,
sweet, generous, and intelligent woman in the world.
I'm even going to "translate" this for you so you're
sure to start seeing it more clearly -
Translation: The emotional experiences that a man
has when he's around a woman are the single most
powerful reasons why he either wants a long- term
relationship, or doesn't.
And to make this even more clear, let me tell you
what this DOESN'T mean...
It DOESN'T mean that a man wants to be with a woman
because he VALUES a relationship and having true
love in his life.
Or that a woman can be so good to a man and do so
many loving and generous things for him that he
recognizes the LOGICAL value of staying with her and
makes the "right" decision.
Feelings and emotions have their own logic, which
has NOTHING to do with what makes "sense" or what is
And the sooner you accept this as true about men,
the easier EVERYTHING in your love life and
relationship will become.
CREATING A DEEP LEVEL OF "EMOTIONAL ATTRACTION" THAT
WILL LEAD TO A LASTING RELATIONSHIP
So how do you make a man FEEL when he's around you?
What are the conscious and subconscious emotional
reactions and responses he's likely to be having
with you, based on your emotions and your behavior?
Take a minute and think about it.
Here's the bottom line:
A woman who can communicate to a man on a deeper
level that she's AWARE and IN CONTROL of her own
experience and "emotional" state will make a man
feel INTENSE ATTRACTION for her on that same
She's an "emotionally attractive" woman, which can
tell a man all kinds of things about her BEYOND the
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION and interest he might have.
On the other hand...
Women who DON'T have a handle on these things have
quite a different effect on men...
These women can still usually make men feel PHYSICAL
ATTRACTION - but they often set off all kinds of
conscious and subconscious "warning signs" in a
Signals that then become FEELINGS and EMOTIONS
inside the man that tell him to RUN.
And under no circumstance commit himself and attach
his emotional experience to hers.
Here's the strangest part about women who send off
these "warning signals" to men...
Most women do this largely BY ACCIDENT.
That's right. Lots of women actually trigger
negative responses inside a man's mind while doing
things they think are FOR THE GOOD of the
How's that for COUNTERPRODUCTIVE?
And hey... I know it might bother you to hear some
of what I'm saying. And that you probably have been
more caring and generous with your thoughts and
emotions in your past situations with men than they
were with you.
I get that.
But someone needs to tell you how men really and
truly think when it comes to women and
And of course men have their own specialized set of
"baggage" and fears, too.
But let me ask you:
What do you know, FROM EXPERIENCE, will happen if a
man doesn't deal with his own fears about women and
I'm talking withdrawal, break-ups, cheating, lying,
The list goes on.
But if a guy takes the time and develops the
"emotional maturity" to think about the negative and
limiting fears HE HAS about women and
And finds a healthy level of AWARENESS and CONTROL
Then this is the kind of guy that women will
"naturally" be drawn to and enjoy being with.
Your first step to creating a situation with a man
where you BOTH feel the level of connection that
will create and support a lasting relationship is to
accept that MEN DON'T MAKE SENSE.
Because remember, our EMOTIONS don't follow a
logical or "rational" path.
If you're interested in learning more about what I
call "Emotional Attraction" - which is the kind of
attraction and desire in a man that goes BEYOND
PHYSICAL ATTRACTION, then I'd suggest you go check
out my "Natural & Lasting Attraction" CD/DVD
This program is the world's first complete guide and
reference on how to create both that initial
"connection" and LASTING LONG-TERM ATTRACTION...
While showing you how to deal with all of the common
relationship-ending obstacles you'll run into with
men, and within yourself, along the way.
Inside this 7-hour program, I cover everything from
the psychological foundations of how and why a man
becomes connected and attracted to a woman for a
To exactly what to do in the frustrating situation
where you start getting closer and more connected,
but then he starts to withdraw and act MORE DISTANT
as time goes on.
By the way, the material in this program is all NEW
MATERIAL that wasn't covered in my eBook, if you've
already read it.
But let me ask you...
Wouldn't it be great to know the specific emotional
and verbal "strategies" of women who seem to
effortlessly and "naturally" attract men?
In this program I get deep into these areas and
teach you how to keep that deep level of connection
and intimacy growing - in a way that will have HIM
initiating the growth, too.
That way you're not always feeling like you have to
"drive" your relationship to get where you're going.
You'll know how to help him "take the wheel" too...
and love every minute of it.
I also focus on the common negative or
counterproductive "strategies" that LOTS of women
use when things don't seem to be moving forward.
Seeing these common negative strategies, learning
where they come from, and figuring out how to avoid
them is CRITICAL.
Knowing exactly what NOT TO DO will bring you the
CLARITY you've been looking for with men, and save
you tons of wasted time and energy in your love
Here's the thing...
I spent a good portion of this program focusing on
helping you to identify YOUR OWN specific fears and
frustrations with men and relationships that are
holding you back right now -
Some of which I've already had you take a short look
Inside this program I walk you through powerful
guided exercises to help you clearly recognize your
own important "trouble spots."
Then I show you how to immediately turn them into
POSITIVE action steps and INSTANTLY change your old
relationship and communication patterns into
positive results and outcomes.
But you don't have to listen to me - some GUY
telling you all this.
You can watch REAL VIDEOS of REAL WOMEN, who
experienced this program live, tell you their
stories and what they got out of the program as a
Follow this link, go to the bottom of the page and
watch the videos there - and let me know what you