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Recently, I got this advice from a member of my
website, and really felt the heartache this reader
is experiencing. This is her email to me….
I need your advice urgent because I’m about to lose
it.
When I met my boyfriend he was the most amazing guy
ever. He treated me with all the respect in the
world and really showed me how much he loved and
cared for me. We could talk for hours and spent most
of our time together. He use to call and text me
hole day telling me how much he miss me and he is
thinking of me. 3 months ago we got engaged and
everybody was just happy for us. We started planning
the wedding together and just couldn't wait to get
married anymore.
But for the past month he is so distant, aloof and
hardly calls or text me. He ignores me and when we
do spent time together he makes like I don't exist.
He doesn’t consider my feelings and don't appreciate
me in anyway. I’m a complete mess I don't know how
to deal with his behavior.
What makes me more sick is the fact that I found out
he is seeing somebody else HE WILL SIT NEXT TO ME
AND TEXT HER I asked him about it but he denied it.
But he is more on the phone with her than he is with
me.
I CANT TAKE IT ANYMORE I LOVE HIM SO MUCH BUT I AM
HURT AND NEED TO KNOW HOW TO DEAL WITH IT. I'M
LOSING IT REALLY.
Please help me
First of all, let me express to you that I am so
sorry you are going through this pain in your
relationship. What I am about to tell you comes
straight from my learnings from the Christian Carter
eBook Catch Him and Keep Him, and if you have not
read the ebook, I suggest you do so soon, as I
really believe it will help you.
I can tell your heart is filled with love for this
man. But he is treating you badly, and the fact that
he is texting this other woman while you are there
is a behavior that you need to NOT tolerate.
So let me tell you what you should do, and this may
not be what you want to hear, but be strong, and you
will make it through this.
You need to tell this man that his behavior is
unacceptable to you, and that you are not going to
tolerate it further. If he wants to be with this
other woman, then he cannot have you as well, as you
are WORTH MORE than this, and your PRIDE AND DIGNITY
will not allow you to be treated like this any
longer. And then – you need to ignore him. Walk
away, do not contact him, do not text him or email
him or communicate with him, until HE comes to YOU.
Its obvious he feels something for you, but in the
way that he is treating you now, he is KNOWS that he
can get away with it. He knows that he can have this
other woman, and you, at the same time. This is not
acceptable! You are ALLOWING him to walk all over
your own dignity by allowing this behavior to
continue. So stop it in its tracks.
Taking a VERY IMPORTANT excerpt from page 47 of
Christian Carter’s Catch Him and Keep Him eBook,
“Don’t EVER start off as the “casual girl” if you
want the option of a full and committed relationship
in the future. If a relationship is what you’re
after, you have to be “girlfriend material” and make
sure that you are clear FROM THE START that the only
way you’ll be with him is for a relationship, not
for something casual”.
So, you need to end this behavior right here and
now, and be clear to him that you are worth more and
that you want more, and if he cannot give it to you,
then YOU DO NOT WANT HIM. You are the hot commodity
here, not him, and you need to present yourself as
such by setting these boundaries.
It may be difficult, but do it, and see what
happens. If he does not come back to you once he
realizes he cannot have you, then you need to TRULY
move on to someone else who will treat you the way
you deserve.
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