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Sparking Interest
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There's a huge dating mistake you are probably
making right now with men.
And you are probably making it within the first five
minutes.
What's worse is that most men will see and recognize
this mistake from a woman INSTANTLY.
Don't believe me? Read on and find out how to
transform "dating" into the fun, exciting, and
successful process of truly connecting with a man
it's meant to be.
Now, let me ask you something...
When you start talking to a man that you're
"interested" in or dating, what is your attitude
toward him?
How do you treat him?
And what are you THINKING ABOUT?
Do you start the interaction by trying to figure out
if he's single and if he'd be into you... or how to
get him to be MORE into you?
Do you assume that if he's anything close to a good
guy, then he probably has a girlfriend?
And if he does have a girlfriend, do you secretly
hope that he isn't too into her and that he'll take
notice of you?
Do you try to pretend like you're not so interested
in him "in that way", and instead try to be casual
about it until you get signals from him?
Or do you even THINK about how to talk to a man in a
way that will spark his interest and move your
situation from you "chasing" him to having him
"court" YOU instead?
The fact is, most women make the same mistake when
trying to spark interest in a man?
They leave it up to men, or to "fate", to decide
what happens in their situation - and are UNAWARE of
what they're doing.
Or, if they are aware of what they're doing...
they're not aware of what OTHER people (particularly
men) think of them and their behaviors.
Now, most women won't ADMIT that they will try to do
or say whatever they think will please a man.
And they won't ADMIT that they're even mentally
anticipating what a man is going to think or do so
they can respond to it in the "right" way.
But the reality for lots of women is that this is
happening.
And it's happening ALL THE TIME.
Let me explain...
Out of a random sample of 100 handsome guys,you'd
probably find that only 20 of them (or so) are:
- Single
- Emotionally stable and at least semi-mature
- Able to carry on an interesting conversation
- Open to a relationship, should the right woman
come along
- Not a player, or looking for just "fun"
This is just an estimate from my own personal
experience, but I think you get the point.
Now, here's the important part of this concept...
Let's say that you started talking to all of these
100 men, one after the other, and you had to use the
same basic attitude and conversational style with
each of them.
What would you do?
If you treated all of them like they were probably
NOT single, interesting, stable, open, mature, etc,
(which is the case for most of them), then you'd
probably scare off the single ones who actually were
the good ones, because they'd think YOU were acting
strange, or that something was "off" with you.
For instance, let's say you started a conversation
with a very attractive guy who was open-minded and
funny. But let's say that you were "playing it
cool", not saying anything that might offend or
appear "too forward", and generally treating him and
talking to him like he might be a good "friend".
You'd probably be trying to figure out if he was
single, what his "story" was, and ask him some
questions to get to know a bit about him.
"So what do you do?"
"Where are you from?"
"How did you get so funny?"
And you wouldn't really be paying attention to what
you were saying as you listened to him and asked him
questions. And you might end the conversation as you
left and he hadn't taken your number or asked you
out by saying, "So, why don't you call me sometime?"
And what is this hot, smart, desirable man thinking
while you say this?
Right... Unless he's purely physically attracted to
you, he's thinking that you and he didn't really
"hit it off" and that you must be kind of desperate
to ask him out when you didn't share any real
"chemistry" or connection.
(Remember, you were playing it cool the whole
time... and you were asking him a bunch of questions
about his everyday life. BORING!)
Now, let's take the flip side of talking to these
100 men.
Stay with me here.
Let's say that you treated ALL of the 100 attractive
men like they were fun, open, smart, available,
interesting, etc.
What would happen?
Well, you'd probably start flirting with all of them
right from the beginning, or you'd communicate very
quickly that you weren't just another friendly gal
who wanted to talk about the weather.
And what would happen?
Well, as you can imagine, a lot of the men who were
either unavailable or unable to have a normal
conversation would "reject" you. Especially if you
were obviously open, available, but not a push-over
at the same time. (Letting them know that you were
the one doing the "choosing", and that only "real
men" would be considered)
Well, for most women, the THOUGHT of being
"rejected" by a man they're interested in is worse
than slow water torture or electric shock.
So what do women do?
They don't even try.
And they miss the opportunities with all of those
wonderful, single, open, emotionally available men
who are out looking for a woman who has the
confidence to find them.
So what's the solution?
The solution is to use a little "strategy" or
"technique" called behaving AS IF he's single,
available, and interesting.
You must learn to overcome your initial self-doubt
and your doubts about a man, and behave AS IF every
man you start talking to is SINGLE and AS IF he's
going to be a great guy.
And then you must do some things that will attract
THAT man, and forget about what might happen with
the other 80% of guys who can't make the grade.
And you must learn to NOT take the things that
happen in between meeting the wonderful ones
PERSONALLY.
There's an old principle when it comes to marketing
and advertising that really applies here in the real
world.
It basically says that out of 100 people reading
your ad or seeing your commercial, maybe ONE of them
is someone who would buy your product anyway.
SO QUIT TALKING TO ALL OF THE 100 PEOPLE, AND SIMPLY
TALK TO THE ONE.
To put it another way: "Don't worry about the DOGS,
concentrate on selling the FOXES".
This is a great metaphor I borrowed from a smart
writer I know named Gary Halbert.
The point is... talk to the men you meet. AS IF
they're single, open, interesting, and wonderful.
And then don't worry about the ones that don't turn
out to actually BE single, open, interesting,
available, and wonderful.
Use the things you're learning from me, and KEEP
USING THEM... even if they don't work every time,
and in every situation.
There are all kinds of reasons why men aren't
"ready" or interested... or stop being interested...
or whatever.
But this doesn't mean that you should stop doing
what works!
...which leads me to my next point.
You're probably wondering... "Christian, so how do I
behave AS IF the man I am meeting will likely turn
out to be a good guy... or even be my "Mr. Right"?
Good question. I'll tell you how...
When you first start talking to a man, your BELIEFS
about men, dating, and relationships are CRITICAL.
If you don't know how to communicate in a way that
INSTANTLY shows a man that you're one of the women
who "gets it", has confidence, and is attractive
both inside and out... then you'll probably be
overlooked and mentally discounted by a man within
SECONDS.
Or a man will want to be with you for the WRONG
REASONS, or for only a short and uncertain amount of
time.
Of course, in order to PROJECT the correct beliefs
that are attractive to men, you must KNOW WHAT THEY
ARE, and UNDERSTAND THEM.
In other words, you can't just "fake" them. You
actually have to have a DEEP understanding of how
men think, and what makes them feel a POWERFUL,
gut-level emotional ATTRACTION for a woman.
It's taken me YEARS to figure out this critical
point in dating and relationships... and several
more years to observe and study so I could help
women do this quickly and easily.
And without doing all kinds of "kooky" and out there
stuff, or stuff that doesn't feel "real".
No one likes to play "games", or have games played
with them.
There is a way to completely AVOID PLAYING GAMES and
get straight to the kind of connection and indirect
communication that brings a man and a woman closer
than simply using words can.
You can't learn to be a professional dancer or an
expert in martial arts just by learning a few
"techniques".
It takes a DEEPER, more profound understanding.
And you can't learn how to be become more successful
in your single life, or in your relationship by
learning a few of the right things to say.
It just doesn't work this way.
(Think of men who believe in and try to use "pick-up
lines" on women)
After spending literally YEARS seeing women I know
making mistakes, seeing them trying different
things, and putting the pieces together in my own
studies, observation, and teaching... I've created a
systematic way for women to learn ALL of the various
aspects of how to be successful with men and dating.
And I've created a few specific educational tools so
you can learn this skill... right from the comfort
of your own home.
The most powerful tool to get you started is my
"Natural & Lasting Attraction" program.
It's 6 full hours of digital CD Audio or DVD Video
material, plus a detailed workbook.
I teach everything from the ground up. All the way
from how and why men are attracted to some women and
not others, to the specific techniques to use and
even interviews with 3 amazing guest experts who are
masters in their own area of knowledge related to
dating.
You'll learn everything from how to overcome fears
of meeting and dating men to the 6 essential keys to
ATTRACTION you need to know in order to take your
relationship beyond just a physical bond, and create
the kind of deep EMOTIONAL CONNECTION with a man
that will LAST.
And there's lots more in this program.
You'll want to go through this material SEVERAL
times before you want to put it down... and in fact,
you'll probably keep reviewing the material for some
time.
I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in
life and love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
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