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Relationship Advice: What it
Means if He Does Not Call
Ever wonder why the man you're dating and having
an amazing time with doesn't call you very often? Or
worse... stops calling altogether? If you've ever
had this happen to you with a man, then you know how
FRUSTRATING it can be when a man just suddenly stops
calling for what seems like no good reason...
And you've spent more time than you'd like to admit
wondering what happened and what YOU might have done
wrong. Most women in this situation fall into a kind
of trap that seems to work against them...
Instead of recognizing that the man not calling is
an important signal in of itself, they become
obsessed with wanting to know what he's thinking and
WHY he's acting this way. But most women also know
on an intuitive level that coming out and actually
asking a man why he's acting this way wouldn't bring
about anything good.
And guess what? Their intuition is right. With most
men in this situation, if you want to connect with a
man and grow closer, then the answer is NOT to try
and get him to talk about his thoughts and feelings.
It's time you learned what it really means if a man
isn't calling... and what to do about it to quickly
"turn the tables" in your favor so that he's the one
calling and asking you out.
I'll share this with you, but first I want you to
read this email I got recently from a reader about
this exact kind of situation.
**Question For Christian Carter**
Hi Christian,
First of all I think you are great and have learned
a lot from reading your book. I am divorced and have
been dating a widower for about a month. We get
together once or twice a week - I don't expect more
than that - as he lives about half an hour away from
me. Our dates are great and there is a definite
physical attraction on both sides. My problem is
that in-between dates I don't hear from him. I know
that he works hard and is bringing up 3 children on
his own - but how long does it take to pick up the
phone and ask me how I am? Am I asking too much? Is
it too soon to expect anything? I don't want to
complain and frighten him off, as I really like him.
What do you suggest?
Looking forward to hearing from you
R.J. from Illinois
**Christian Carter’s Response**
Ok, let me get the facts straight here...You've been
out with a man for an entire month. (Not long at
all, and effectively NO TIME in a man's mind) .
You've seen each other once or twice a week or so
for 3-4 whole weeks. (Not even enough for a man to
see you as "dating")
And you know he is busy and raising three young
children on his own. (His attention and focus is
admittedly elsewhere) But in just a few dates you've
already become disappointed and "bothered" by the
way he's being... and you're wishing he would
CHANGE.
DANGER.
This is bad for YOU, and for him. The approach and
mindset you have right now is almost guaranteed to
make this man see you as too demanding and "needy"
to want to be with you, when it's just a few weeks
in. So I hope you haven't started talking about all
your feelings of disappointment with him yet..
because it wouldn't go over well with the way you're
looking at things.
But here's the worst part of all this...You already
have my eBook and your still asking me for love life
advice, or the
"easy" answer on this, as though there is some magic
pill I can give you that will make a man act the way
you want or expect him to be.
I'd like to be able to lie and tell you that I could
change a man for you. But I can't... and you know
it. The truth is, I've only got YOU to work with...
and you've only got YOUR OWN thinking and your own
behavior that you can use to make a difference. It's
time you started thinking about how you can take
RESPONSIBILITY for creating the RESPONSE you want in
a man...
Instead of sitting around frustrated that he hasn't
met YOUR EXPECTATIONS you have for him. (Especially
when he doesn't even know what these are). You need
to open up my Catch Him and Keep Him eBook and go to
page 32. There I want you to read the section called
"Initial Thoughts" at least twice and think about
what's going on there.
I want you to think about the 2 types of people I
talk about... and the kind of "magic mindset" that's
going to help you naturally start creating great
situations in your life. Then I want you to think
about how this relates to the idea of COMMUNICATING
with a man in a way that creates ATTRACTION inside
of him.
As opposed to communicating with a man in the way
that KILLS the attraction he might be feeling for
you. Once you've thought about this, I want you to
go to page 36 and read the section on "How To Be
Honest About What You Want". Pay attention here to
the 4 important questions you need to ask yourself
BEFORE you get involved with a man, or start talking
about your relationship with him.
And make sure you learn and understand what I call
"a unique habit of happy people". Do
you have a history of breakups and bad
relationships? Let's CHANGE that.
If you could apply this one simple habit to your
love life, I know it would immediately give back to
you the kind of understanding and satisfaction
you're seeking but not meant to get yet from the man
you're dating. (Hint - there's a reason why you and
he aren't totally "connecting" yet, and it's NOT all
about him)
And by the way, you can download a risk-free copy of
my Catch Him and Keep Him eBook at the link below right now, and be reading
it in just a few minutes. Download and read my eBook
here right now:
Catch Him and Keep Him.
Now, you've also asked a great question in your
email..."Am I asking for too much from him?" Simply
put - YES. You're asking for too much because you
shouldn't be ASKING HIM for what you want and then
hoping that he "meets your demands". This is a
LOSING APPROACH that will 100% guarantee that a man
won't want to give you what you're looking for.
That is not what leads to a healthy relationship or
marriage. It leads to breakup and heartache.
Why? Well, it's not because you actually are asking
for too much. It's OK to know that you'd like a man
in your life who you're involved with to call you
more. But this isn't about whether this is ok for
you to ask for.
No. This is all about THE WAY you ask, and the
emotions and expectations a man will see that you're
holding onto when you open your mouth and you've
been going through a whole lot of disappointment and
frustration with him... while he's thinking that
you've been out on a few fun dates and everything is
fine and dandy.
WHY ISN'T HE CALLING MORE?
Here's something you might not have thought about...
Men often communicate and show their feelings in
less "direct" ways than simply saying and expressing
how the feel. In fact, most men are a whole lot more
conscious of DOING things than they are of how they
effect and relate to others on an emotional level.
So... when a man doesn't call, it's often NOT an
indication of something else going on for him that
he might want to talk to you about. Often times it's
simply an indication that he doesn't actually FEEL
like spending more time around you.
So he simply doesn't call. In other words, when it
comes to men and dating, it's best to look at a
man's ACTIONS and BEHAVIORS as the only TRUE
INDICATION of how they really feel inside. As a
woman, you can probably spin your wheels dreaming up
all kinds of incredible and elaborate ideas and
scenarios for why a man isn't calling and what it
means about his feelings and your situation.
But, if you're interested in doing more than
analyzing and trying to figure out things in your
own mind... then it's best to "read" the men you're
dating early on by what they DO... and NOT what they
SAY. Which means... a man not calling you often, or
at all, is an important signal in of itself.
If a man is spending time with a woman he "likes",
but he isn't sure if he would want much more than a
few casual dates with her...then here's what he
does...
He only calls her every once in a while to keep the
"connection" open... making sure not to let the
connection die, but also making sure not to spend
too much time with a woman or show her too many
signs of interest that might indicate he'd want a
more serious relationship.
And yes, some men actually think this way and are
CONSCIOUS about NOT CALLING women very often if they
don't want things to get more serious. While other
men who don't call are usually doing this
inadvertently as they're going about their life and
not thinking much about wanting more with a woman.
Here's what you need to take away from all this...
If a man isn't calling and you'd like him to call
more and to grow in your relationship together, it
really doesn't matter WHY. The only things that
matter are if he's not calling because he's not
interested in a relationship with you ever.
Or...
If he's not calling because he's just not feeling
"that way" for you YET. Which begs the question -
how do you get a man feeling "that way" for you if
he's not feeling it yet? Well, for starters, you
need to STOP doing the things that will promise that
a man WON'T feel it for you.
Things like CALLING HIM TOO MUCH. Or getting upset
and hurt that he hasn't called when there's no
"relationship" yet, and it's just YOUR EXPECTATION
that he SHOULD call more. Or generally taking on any
other needy, clingy, or overly emotional behaviors
that will have a man thinking you'd be nothing but a
pain if he was to get to know you and involved in a
real relationship with you.
What you need to do instead is to start to learn the
behaviors that create the feeling of ATTRACTION
inside a man.
Why attraction?
Because attraction is the one thing that will
"override" all the logical reasons a man has for NOT
wanting to get involved with a woman or stay
single...And will take over his "emotional world"
and have him thinking and acting from his EMOTIONS
with you... instead of his "logical mind" that will
often try to RESIST a woman and a real committed
relationship.
The very best way there is to learn how attraction
works for a man and quickly start using works with
men to create a deep level of LASTING ATTRACTION
inside the man you're dating is to get a copy of my
"Natural & Lasting Attraction" CD/DVD program.
In this program I show you 6 Keys to Lasting
Attraction with a man you need to know about if you
want a man to see you as the only woman he wants to
be with.
If you don't know about these critical 6 Keys To
Lasting Attraction, then you're going to struggle
with a man eventually.
It could be when he shows up in a few months or
years and says, "I love you, but I'm not IN LOVE
with you."
Or when he loses his physical interest in you and
you know your not "connecting" the way you used
to... and you worry he might be thinking about or
seeing another woman.
The truth is, if you learn how to keep that intense
level of attraction ALIVE in your relationship...
and you know how to make a man feel attracted to you
on a physical, emotional, and "intellectual" level,
then your relationship with him will largely take
care of itself.
If you want to learn how to create an intense level
of attraction in a man... and keep it going, then
you need to try out my "Natural & Lasting
Attraction" program on CD or DVD right now.
I'm so confident that this program can and will show
you everything you need to know about making a man
feel that amazing "something" that he knows he can't
experience with any other woman that I'll even ship
it to you and let you try it out for an entire 30
days free.
But best of all... your love life and the way men
respond to you will change for the better FOREVER.
I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in
Life and Love.
Your Friend,
Christian Carter
P.S. The best place to start with my materials is my
eBook "Catch Him & Keep Him" If you haven't taken
the time to go and download my online eBook, then
you need to do that immediately. Click
here to get
Catch Him and Keep Him. It's a great place to start
your growth and change your love life forever. You
can download it right now, and be reading it in
literally MINUTES. It will teach you a TON about how
to "get inside a man's mind". In fact, the entire
first section of the book is all about helping you
to truly understand where a man is coming from, and
how to work WITH HIM and not AGAINST HIM in your
situation. So many women make their own lives and
relationships harder than they need to be by not
learning the basic foundations of how men view love,
connection, attraction and relationships. Don't let
what you don't know but could quickly learn about
men keep bothering you and hold you back from having
what you really want in love. Go
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and Keep Him!
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