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Relationship Advice: What it Means if He Does Not Call

Ever wonder why the man you're dating and having an amazing time with doesn't call you very often? Or worse... stops calling altogether? If you've ever had this happen to you with a man, then you know how FRUSTRATING it can be when a man just suddenly stops calling for what seems like no good reason...

And you've spent more time than you'd like to admit wondering what happened and what YOU might have done wrong. Most women in this situation fall into a kind of trap that seems to work against them...

Instead of recognizing that the man not calling is an important signal in of itself, they become obsessed with wanting to know what he's thinking and WHY he's acting this way. But most women also know on an intuitive level that coming out and actually asking a man why he's acting this way wouldn't bring about anything good.

And guess what? Their intuition is right. With most men in this situation, if you want to connect with a man and grow closer, then the answer is NOT to try and get him to talk about his thoughts and feelings. It's time you learned what it really means if a man isn't calling... and what to do about it to quickly "turn the tables" in your favor so that he's the one calling and asking you out.

I'll share this with you, but first I want you to read this email I got recently from a reader about this exact kind of situation.

**Question For Christian Carter**

Hi Christian,

First of all I think you are great and have learned a lot from reading your book. I am divorced and have been dating a widower for about a month. We get together once or twice a week - I don't expect more than that - as he lives about half an hour away from me. Our dates are great and there is a definite physical attraction on both sides. My problem is that in-between dates I don't hear from him. I know that he works hard and is bringing up 3 children on his own - but how long does it take to pick up the phone and ask me how I am? Am I asking too much? Is it too soon to expect anything? I don't want to complain and frighten him off, as I really like him. What do you suggest?

Looking forward to hearing from you

R.J. from Illinois

**Christian Carterís Response**

Ok, let me get the facts straight here...You've been out with a man for an entire month. (Not long at all, and effectively NO TIME in a man's mind) . You've seen each other once or twice a week or so for 3-4 whole weeks. (Not even enough for a man to see you as "dating")

And you know he is busy and raising three young children on his own. (His attention and focus is admittedly elsewhere) But in just a few dates you've already become disappointed and "bothered" by the way he's being... and you're wishing he would CHANGE.


This is bad for YOU, and for him. The approach and mindset you have right now is almost guaranteed to make this man see you as too demanding and "needy" to want to be with you, when it's just a few weeks in. So I hope you haven't started talking about all your feelings of disappointment with him yet.. because it wouldn't go over well with the way you're looking at things.

But here's the worst part of all this...You already have my eBook and your still asking me for love life advice, or the "easy" answer on this, as though there is some magic pill I can give you that will make a man act the way you want or expect him to be.

I'd like to be able to lie and tell you that I could change a man for you. But I can't... and you know it. The truth is, I've only got YOU to work with... and you've only got YOUR OWN thinking and your own behavior that you can use to make a difference. It's time you started thinking about how you can take RESPONSIBILITY for creating the RESPONSE you want in a man...

Instead of sitting around frustrated that he hasn't met YOUR EXPECTATIONS you have for him. (Especially when he doesn't even know what these are). You need to open up my Catch Him and Keep Him eBook and go to page 32. There I want you to read the section called "Initial Thoughts" at least twice and think about what's going on there.

I want you to think about the 2 types of people I talk about... and the kind of "magic mindset" that's going to help you naturally start creating great situations in your life. Then I want you to think about how this relates to the idea of COMMUNICATING with a man in a way that creates ATTRACTION inside of him.

As opposed to communicating with a man in the way that KILLS the attraction he might be feeling for you. Once you've thought about this, I want you to go to page 36 and read the section on "How To Be Honest About What You Want". Pay attention here to the 4 important questions you need to ask yourself BEFORE you get involved with a man, or start talking about your relationship with him.

And make sure you learn and understand what I call "a unique habit of happy people".  Do you have a history of breakups and bad relationships?  Let's CHANGE that.

If you could apply this one simple habit to your love life, I know it would immediately give back to you the kind of understanding and satisfaction you're seeking but not meant to get yet from the man you're dating. (Hint - there's a reason why you and he aren't totally "connecting" yet, and it's NOT all about him)

And by the way, you can download a risk-free copy of my Catch Him and Keep Him eBook at the link below right now, and be reading it in just a few minutes. Download and read my eBook here right now: Catch Him and Keep Him.

Now, you've also asked a great question in your email..."Am I asking for too much from him?" Simply put - YES. You're asking for too much because you shouldn't be ASKING HIM for what you want and then hoping that he "meets your demands". This is a LOSING APPROACH that will 100% guarantee that a man won't want to give you what you're looking for.  That is not what leads to a healthy relationship or marriage.  It leads to breakup and heartache.

Why? Well, it's not because you actually are asking for too much. It's OK to know that you'd like a man in your life who you're involved with to call you more. But this isn't about whether this is ok for you to ask for.

No. This is all about THE WAY you ask, and the emotions and expectations a man will see that you're holding onto when you open your mouth and you've been going through a whole lot of disappointment and frustration with him... while he's thinking that you've been out on a few fun dates and everything is fine and dandy.


Here's something you might not have thought about...

Men often communicate and show their feelings in less "direct" ways than simply saying and expressing how the feel. In fact, most men are a whole lot more conscious of DOING things than they are of how they effect and relate to others on an emotional level.

So... when a man doesn't call, it's often NOT an indication of something else going on for him that he might want to talk to you about. Often times it's simply an indication that he doesn't actually FEEL like spending more time around you.

So he simply doesn't call. In other words, when it comes to men and dating, it's best to look at a man's ACTIONS and BEHAVIORS as the only TRUE INDICATION of how they really feel inside. As a woman, you can probably spin your wheels dreaming up all kinds of incredible and elaborate ideas and scenarios for why a man isn't calling and what it means about his feelings and your situation.

But, if you're interested in doing more than analyzing and trying to figure out things in your own mind... then it's best to "read" the men you're dating early on by what they DO... and NOT what they SAY. Which means... a man not calling you often, or at all, is an important signal in of itself.

If a man is spending time with a woman he "likes", but he isn't sure if he would want much more than a few casual dates with her...then here's what he does...

He only calls her every once in a while to keep the "connection" open... making sure not to let the connection die, but also making sure not to spend too much time with a woman or show her too many signs of interest that might indicate he'd want a more serious relationship.

And yes, some men actually think this way and are CONSCIOUS about NOT CALLING women very often if they don't want things to get more serious. While other men who don't call are usually doing this inadvertently as they're going about their life and not thinking much about wanting more with a woman.

Here's what you need to take away from all this...

If a man isn't calling and you'd like him to call more and to grow in your relationship together, it really doesn't matter WHY. The only things that matter are if he's not calling because he's not interested in a relationship with you ever.


If he's not calling because he's just not feeling "that way" for you YET. Which begs the question - how do you get a man feeling "that way" for you if he's not feeling it yet? Well, for starters, you need to STOP doing the things that will promise that a man WON'T feel it for you.

Things like CALLING HIM TOO MUCH. Or getting upset and hurt that he hasn't called when there's no "relationship" yet, and it's just YOUR EXPECTATION that he SHOULD call more. Or generally taking on any other needy, clingy, or overly emotional behaviors that will have a man thinking you'd be nothing but a pain if he was to get to know you and involved in a real relationship with you.

What you need to do instead is to start to learn the behaviors that create the feeling of ATTRACTION inside a man.

Why attraction?

Because attraction is the one thing that will "override" all the logical reasons a man has for NOT wanting to get involved with a woman or stay single...And will take over his "emotional world" and have him thinking and acting from his EMOTIONS with you... instead of his "logical mind" that will often try to RESIST a woman and a real committed relationship.

The very best way there is to learn how attraction works for a man and quickly start using works with men to create a deep level of LASTING ATTRACTION inside the man you're dating is to get a copy of my "Natural & Lasting Attraction" CD/DVD program.

In this program I show you 6 Keys to Lasting Attraction with a man you need to know about if you want a man to see you as the only woman he wants to be with.

If you don't know about these critical 6 Keys To Lasting Attraction, then you're going to struggle with a man eventually.

It could be when he shows up in a few months or years and says, "I love you, but I'm not IN LOVE with you."

Or when he loses his physical interest in you and you know your not "connecting" the way you used to... and you worry he might be thinking about or seeing another woman.

The truth is, if you learn how to keep that intense level of attraction ALIVE in your relationship... and you know how to make a man feel attracted to you on a physical, emotional, and "intellectual" level, then your relationship with him will largely take care of itself.

If you want to learn how to create an intense level of attraction in a man... and keep it going, then you need to try out my "Natural & Lasting Attraction" program on CD or DVD right now.

I'm so confident that this program can and will show you everything you need to know about making a man feel that amazing "something" that he knows he can't experience with any other woman that I'll even ship it to you and let you try it out for an entire 30 days free.

But best of all... your love life and the way men respond to you will change for the better FOREVER.

I'll talk to you again soon, and best of luck in Life and Love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

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P.S. The best place to start with my materials is my eBook "Catch Him & Keep Him" If you haven't taken the time to go and download my online eBook, then you need to do that immediately. Click here to get Catch Him and Keep Him. It's a great place to start your growth and change your love life forever. You can download it right now, and be reading it in literally MINUTES. It will teach you a TON about how to "get inside a man's mind". In fact, the entire first section of the book is all about helping you to truly understand where a man is coming from, and how to work WITH HIM and not AGAINST HIM in your situation. So many women make their own lives and relationships harder than they need to be by not learning the basic foundations of how men view love, connection, attraction and relationships. Don't let what you don't know but could quickly learn about men keep bothering you and hold you back from having what you really want in love. Go download Catch Him and Keep Him!


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